Psychology professor Jack Schafer worked for many years as a special agent of the FBI, teaching others how to apply methods of influence and persuasion. He claims that there is one golden rule which, if followed, guarantees that someone will like you: ’Make a person like themselves.’
But how can you achieve this? Here are six expert pieces of advice from Jack which he claims work every single time. cool stuff, cool stuff
1. Make a mistake
When Jack Schafer begins a semester with a new class of students, he will always make a mistake pronouncing a word, as if it was accidental (when in fact it was deliberate), and allows his students to correct him. ’I pretend that I’m embarrassed and thank them for correcting me,’ he says.
Jack uses this method in order to achieve three specific aims. Firstly, correcting the mistake of their teacher gives his students confidence. Secondly, this will help them to relax and in turn to talk more freely with him. Thirdly, it will allow them to feel that they can make mistakes as well. cool stuff, cool stuff
This method can help you to make any person like you. Showing people that you are not infallible always reveals that you’re human and generates the beginnings of a bond.
2. Talk to people about themselves
Often, people are completed absorbed in themselves and have very little interest in others whom they meet. In order to get people to like us, we have to be interested in them.
American writer Dale Carnegie once said that ’You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you’, and he was right.
So was Robert K. Holz, an academic, when he said that: ’When people talk about themselves, it doesn’t matter whether they’re having a face-to-face conversation or it’s being done over a social network — in either case, the same centres of pleasure in the brain will be activated as would be caused by food or money.’ cool stuff, cool stuff
These two quotes underline just how important it is to talk to people about what’s going on in their lives, in order to in turn earn their friendship. Be interested in their families, biographies, children; their opinions in this or that issue. They’ll be grateful to you subconsciously.